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NEW YEAR; NEW ME

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  Hello; it has been a while hope you have been well.   It’s the New Year and for the first time in a while, I didn’t see any new year new me statuses. Have people given up on changing their lives? Or are we overwhelmed by the state of the world which seems to not be changing?  In our capacity, we cannot change the world but what we can change is our look at life. We set targets for new year’s resolutions but we rarely ever get to attain a satisfactory result at the end of the year. The reason for this is we always procrastinate for example I have been thinking I need to lose some weight so I have been thinking of the diet when I asked when I plan to start it I said the 10th and knowing myself I will keep procrastinating. So because we do not start the year on the right footing we set ourselves up for failure. So in the same way, if we wish to succeed in any of our targets, plans let’s start on the right footing. Gregor Moniuszko wrote on Thrive Global that “By starting the day right,
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Timeline Expectations

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 As I get on in age, I am noticing the timeline expectations imposed on us by ourselves.  I am sure dear reader, have at one point in time heard this statement said (you are (a particular age) and you do not have a job, child or a spouse). Who was it that said life events like the ones I previously mentioned have a timeline?   I need to meet this person and ask them what form of measurement they used to determine the optimum timeframe to reach a particular life stage.  To say I am upset about this issue is an understatement because we have people who are not mentally, emotionally mature for certain things going out to do them.  Life is not a race; it's not a test written in a particular timeframe, even in an exam there is a student who walks out before it ends and there is one who doesn't finish.  Life comes different to everyone because our journeys in life are different. As Margaret Mead says "Always remember that you are unique. Just like everyone else.”  You are a uniq
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Onlookers

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 This past week I heard a most horrific story on the radio; it was of a man who bit up his wife for a lost SIM card. An item which is replaceable with a few dollars as bad as that was what made me tremble even more was that there were onlookers who didn't stop the man but could record the whole ordeal and they could be overhead trying to reason with the victim to admit where the SIM card was. Cases of gender-based violence should be reported and dealt with by the law. Today I want to talk about the onlookers because frankly speaking what they did was terrible and this is not the only scene we observe such behavior. There are videos you will find on the internet relating to accident scenes; not recorded by journalists. Some were just really recorded by passer-byes. So I always ask myself; what did the videographer actively do to stop or try to rescue those in danger? Did they call the police, ambulance or even the fire brigade or is it a case of the first thing was pulling out your
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EXPOSE. Drag. Cancel culture

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  I was on Twitter looking for inspiration and moments later; I found myself investing in a Twitter rant of this lady who was exposing someone else's misdeeds.  Her exposure rant was because she was upset. She was trying to defend herself if I can call it her that.  So we aren't here to take a side and say who was right who was wrong. We are here to glean a lesson from the situation. Interestingly the more I write this blog; the more I find myself frustrated by the influence social media has on our lives.  I realize social media has become so much a part of our lives that we now document every thought we have and all the emotions we feel.  The problem with this is when we are upset at those around; our first move is to post about it. Doing so we do not solve the matter we are only publicizing the issue and soliciting unprofessional advice online. As one unknown person said, 'if you’re having relationship problems, confess to God, not Facebook' We end up resorting to thi
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Regret

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 I have a motto that I live by it says 'Live in the moment so that you never look back at a point in your life with regret.' So in everything I do, I find myself whispering these words to myself. I am never afraid to jump at opportunities regardless of the risk. More importantly, I also know my limits because I don't want to regret my choices tomorrow. Social media is one fun jungle to navigate many a time you will find yourself drawn to trends and challenges circulating.  Many of these are fun to watch when we see them we probably have a good laugh at some, well I know I do. I however always ask myself though when I see those challenges before I attempt to join the fun and add a post of my own I ask,  if in five years the Siphiwe of then will look at it and smile or if she will delete the post and deny it ever being her.  We shouldn't let the pressures of wanting many likes pressure us into doing things that are uncharacteristic of ourselves.  Instead be willing to let
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