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NEW YEAR; NEW ME

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  Hello; it has been a while hope you have been well.   It’s the New Year and for the first time in a while, I didn’t see any new year new me statuses. Have people given up on changing their lives? Or are we overwhelmed by the state of the world which seems to not be changing?  In our capacity, we cannot change the world but what we can change is our look at life. We set targets for new year’s resolutions but we rarely ever get to attain a satisfactory result at the end of the year. The reason for this is we always procrastinate for example I have been thinking I need to lose some weight so I have been thinking of the diet when I asked when I plan to start it I said the 10th and knowing myself I will keep procrastinating. So because we do not start the year on the right footing we set ourselves up for failure. So in the same way, if we wish to succeed in any of our targets, plans let’s start on the right footing. Gregor Moniuszko wrote on Thrive Global that “By starting the day right,
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Timeline Expectations

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 As I get on in age, I am noticing the timeline expectations imposed on us by ourselves.  I am sure dear reader, have at one point in time heard this statement said (you are (a particular age) and you do not have a job, child or a spouse). Who was it that said life events like the ones I previously mentioned have a timeline?   I need to meet this person and ask them what form of measurement they used to determine the optimum timeframe to reach a particular life stage.  To say I am upset about this issue is an understatement because we have people who are not mentally, emotionally mature for certain things going out to do them.  Life is not a race; it's not a test written in a particular timeframe, even in an exam there is a student who walks out before it ends and there is one who doesn't finish.  Life comes different to everyone because our journeys in life are different. As Margaret Mead says "Always remember that you are unique. Just like everyone else.”  You are a uniq
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Onlookers

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 This past week I heard a most horrific story on the radio; it was of a man who bit up his wife for a lost SIM card. An item which is replaceable with a few dollars as bad as that was what made me tremble even more was that there were onlookers who didn't stop the man but could record the whole ordeal and they could be overhead trying to reason with the victim to admit where the SIM card was. Cases of gender-based violence should be reported and dealt with by the law. Today I want to talk about the onlookers because frankly speaking what they did was terrible and this is not the only scene we observe such behavior. There are videos you will find on the internet relating to accident scenes; not recorded by journalists. Some were just really recorded by passer-byes. So I always ask myself; what did the videographer actively do to stop or try to rescue those in danger? Did they call the police, ambulance or even the fire brigade or is it a case of the first thing was pulling out your
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EXPOSE. Drag. Cancel culture

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  I was on Twitter looking for inspiration and moments later; I found myself investing in a Twitter rant of this lady who was exposing someone else's misdeeds.  Her exposure rant was because she was upset. She was trying to defend herself if I can call it her that.  So we aren't here to take a side and say who was right who was wrong. We are here to glean a lesson from the situation. Interestingly the more I write this blog; the more I find myself frustrated by the influence social media has on our lives.  I realize social media has become so much a part of our lives that we now document every thought we have and all the emotions we feel.  The problem with this is when we are upset at those around; our first move is to post about it. Doing so we do not solve the matter we are only publicizing the issue and soliciting unprofessional advice online. As one unknown person said, 'if you’re having relationship problems, confess to God, not Facebook' We end up resorting to thi
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Regret

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 I have a motto that I live by it says 'Live in the moment so that you never look back at a point in your life with regret.' So in everything I do, I find myself whispering these words to myself. I am never afraid to jump at opportunities regardless of the risk. More importantly, I also know my limits because I don't want to regret my choices tomorrow. Social media is one fun jungle to navigate many a time you will find yourself drawn to trends and challenges circulating.  Many of these are fun to watch when we see them we probably have a good laugh at some, well I know I do. I however always ask myself though when I see those challenges before I attempt to join the fun and add a post of my own I ask,  if in five years the Siphiwe of then will look at it and smile or if she will delete the post and deny it ever being her.  We shouldn't let the pressures of wanting many likes pressure us into doing things that are uncharacteristic of ourselves.  Instead be willing to let
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You are worth it

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  I feel like this blog has turned into a self-love blog because truthfully I struggle with loving myself so much. I think it's honestly the hardest thing I have ever had to do because it's always easy to see my faults. I don t know if it's just my mind, I feel society has conditioned us to see ourselves as imperfect more and more while telling us to love ourselves. It is two contrasting messages that you find in media if you have mastered self-love you are seen as a proud person if you don't love yourself well apparently there's something seriously wrong with you. SELF LOVE IS SOMEHOW CONDITIONAL TO THE FACT THAT NO ONE ELSE IS UNCOMFORTABLE WITH YOUR EXPRESSION OF IT. So as I have previously said  I have been struggling with seeing my worth it honestly doesn't matter how many times I recite the statement I am worth it to myself in the mirror I still don't see it. My worth has to this point depended on other people and how they treat me. It has been defined
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Adventure in an old setting

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 I observed that lately, I have been responding to how I am, with the response I am bored honestly I have been bored. Someone commented on my response; hence I began racking my brains trying to come up with a way to alleviate the boredom, I can give a better answer next time.  Ideas came up with were, unfortunately, things I couldn't do seeing as I was in lockdown and then it hit me as I was staring at the mangoes tree. I noted that I have never climbed a tree before; that was something I could try doing. I looked around my surroundings and began forming ideas of possible tasks I could take on to alleviate my boredom. This discovery brought me to a realization that although we are in lockdown; although things seem to be closed, although you may at the moment be unemployed.  If you look around the environment you are in; you will realize there is much you can do. In those spaces where you feel as if nothing is open, be willing to discover opportunities do not be afraid to explore. O
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Back to basics

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  Hello dear readers I know I took a little un- announced break but I real needed it. If you are in Zimbabwe you know we just went into another lockdown and let me tell you the fear that grips me every time I hear the COVID statics I cannot even describe it.   I don’t know if it’s just me but I kind of had a little hope of a turn around this New Year and somehow the lockdown announcement just squashed all of it. I honestly felt like this was a point of no return I saw no good that could come from this situation and as I am writing this now I see a little light not much a little. So let’s talk about the little light I’m seeing its simple people have been saying these interesting statements to me. The first person said this is a time to regroup I know it sounds like a stretch but hear me out. Yes today you may be gripped with panic ,confusion ,you may be uneasy about what the future will bring but let us always remember there are some things that will never change. Those things are the
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