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NEW YEAR; NEW ME

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  Hello; it has been a while hope you have been well.   It’s the New Year and for the first time in a while, I didn’t see any new year new me statuses. Have people given up on changing their lives? Or are we overwhelmed by the state of the world which seems to not be changing?  In our capacity, we cannot change the world but what we can change is our look at life. We set targets for new year’s resolutions but we rarely ever get to attain a satisfactory result at the end of the year. The reason for this is we always procrastinate for example I have been thinking I need to lose some weight so I have been thinking of the diet when I asked when I plan to start it I said the 10th and knowing myself I will keep procrastinating. So because we do not start the year on the right footing we set ourselves up for failure. So in the same way, if we wish to succeed in any of our targets, plans let’s start on the right footing. Gregor Moniuszko wrote on Thrive Global that “By starting the day right,
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PATIENCE TO MASTER ONE’S PASSION.

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  PATIENCE THE CAPACITY TO ACCEPT OR TOLERATE DELAY, PROBLEMS, OR SUFFERING WITHOUT BECOMING ANNOYED OR ANXIOUS. PASSION IS A STRONG LIKING OR DESIRE FOR OR DEVOTION TO SOME ACTIVITY, OBJECT, OR CONCEPT. So this phrase came to me from absolutely nowhere I mean at this point dear reader you know we don’t question my mind. I have always thought passion and patience were polar opposites. I mean we rarely ever think of someone who is passionate to be patient; there is a sense of urgency we attach to passion always. What we don’t realize is patience and passion go hand in hand. To achieve ones utmost desires sometimes you must exercise a great level of patience. Amid my research I came across another blog which had looked at this subject fully, the blogger had outlined how both patience and passion come from the same Latin word pati which means to suffer. The blogger went on further to state that passion is cultivated we are not born with it. I found myself at odds with this statement
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Respect

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Some nights back, I got into my blankets as I was about to let myself fall into dreamland, but low and behold, a car passing by on the street had other plans for me. These plans seemed to entail blasting loud deafening music that ensured that I by no means fall asleep. To say I wasn't happy would be an understatement; I was very tempted to open the door and walk to the gate and give them a good talking too. My mother stopped me and reasoned that this; maybe a new tactic of thieves who are seemingly growing more and more skilled in their trade. It may or may not have been thieves; however, my point is if it was not burglars, then the occupants of the car lacked respect. It was a simple matter of common courtesy; hence whoever it was didn't care. Respect is the due regard for the feelings, wishes, or rights of others. It was ingrained in me as I grew up, so when someone lacks it: I find myself with no less than a thousand question. "Respect is one o the most important things
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Wearing the Mask.

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 Sadly what inspired me today is not good news; I was on Twitter, I found out that a young woman was dead after committing suicide. I know it's sad, I feel it's something we should discuss.  Answer me this how you are feeling? 99% of the people would probably answer by saying they are 'fine' even when they are not, the people who would tell me exactly how they feel I can count them on my fingers. I want to know why is it; that we think hiding our true feelings is a part of proper etiquette. It's not; we are human we are not always going to be okay.  There will be times when we feel alone, defeated and when the world doesn't make sense. It may feel as if the whole world is against us. At those moments, it's okay to be unwell. It's okay to lean on others and to get help. It's okay to not carry the weight on your own, as the adage says a problem shared is a problem halved. Mental pain is real: numbing yourself because the world has convinced you that it
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Happiness

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 Last weeks post left me thinking as well; It left me pondering what I could say defined a state of happiness? What did it mean to be happy? Whether or not one can be happy? I naturally took to ask Dr Google; there was not one phrase I could find that could adequately describe being happy. It was all so subjective I almost did give up. Until I stumbled on three other blogs; that had defined happiness in a way that gave me a good grasp on the subject. The blogs stated that happiness was an intrinsic matter; no one definition in the world could summarize what it meant to be truly happy. However, they did mention the two types of happiness;  Hedonia and Eudaimonia.  Hedonia is happiness associated with pleasure, feeling good.  While Eudaimonia is associated with seeking virtue and meaning, it's a state of contentment with life. I honestly think Eudaimonia is the happiness we all should strive to attain because Hedonia is a fleeting high you can get down. To achieve eudaimonia; researc
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Whatever your heart desires

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 I have never met a person who could say to me I have accomplished everything; there is nothing I look forward to attaining. Instead, everyone I meet has hopes, dreams and sometimes even a to-do list. In short, I am saying to dream is to live.  So I doubt I'm presumptuous in saying;  you also have things you desire. While some of those things can be labelled as wants, there's that one thing you need to have. My number one thing is money; I need money. It leaves my pockets faster than it enters them; honestly, I never have enough. I doubt I'm the only one who feels this way; after all, money is answereth to everything. If you are anything like me, 'everything' is a mile-long list.  So I'm always on the lookout for a new way to make that coin. Some nights ago, I was about to get into bed; out of the blue, I asked myself a question. What do you desire most in the world Siphy? It was so randomly out of the blue; now that I think about it, so curious, but oh well! It
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Timeline Expectations

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 As I get on in age, I am noticing the timeline expectations imposed on us by ourselves.  I am sure dear reader, have at one point in time heard this statement said (you are (a particular age) and you do not have a job, child or a spouse). Who was it that said life events like the ones I previously mentioned have a timeline?   I need to meet this person and ask them what form of measurement they used to determine the optimum timeframe to reach a particular life stage.  To say I am upset about this issue is an understatement because we have people who are not mentally, emotionally mature for certain things going out to do them.  Life is not a race; it's not a test written in a particular timeframe, even in an exam there is a student who walks out before it ends and there is one who doesn't finish.  Life comes different to everyone because our journeys in life are different. As Margaret Mead says "Always remember that you are unique. Just like everyone else.”  You are a uniq
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Onlookers

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 This past week I heard a most horrific story on the radio; it was of a man who bit up his wife for a lost SIM card. An item which is replaceable with a few dollars as bad as that was what made me tremble even more was that there were onlookers who didn't stop the man but could record the whole ordeal and they could be overhead trying to reason with the victim to admit where the SIM card was. Cases of gender-based violence should be reported and dealt with by the law. Today I want to talk about the onlookers because frankly speaking what they did was terrible and this is not the only scene we observe such behavior. There are videos you will find on the internet relating to accident scenes; not recorded by journalists. Some were just really recorded by passer-byes. So I always ask myself; what did the videographer actively do to stop or try to rescue those in danger? Did they call the police, ambulance or even the fire brigade or is it a case of the first thing was pulling out your
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