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NEW YEAR; NEW ME

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  Hello; it has been a while hope you have been well.   It’s the New Year and for the first time in a while, I didn’t see any new year new me statuses. Have people given up on changing their lives? Or are we overwhelmed by the state of the world which seems to not be changing?  In our capacity, we cannot change the world but what we can change is our look at life. We set targets for new year’s resolutions but we rarely ever get to attain a satisfactory result at the end of the year. The reason for this is we always procrastinate for example I have been thinking I need to lose some weight so I have been thinking of the diet when I asked when I plan to start it I said the 10th and knowing myself I will keep procrastinating. So because we do not start the year on the right footing we set ourselves up for failure. So in the same way, if we wish to succeed in any of our targets, plans let’s start on the right footing. Gregor Moniuszko wrote on Thrive Global that “By starting the day right,
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Minding your own business

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The art of minding one's own business is very challenging. I know I have been trying to do that lately. As humans, we always want to have an input in a decision someone makes worse with social media and with all these many movements going on: we find ourselves adding our two cents into peoples matters. I want to talk about the Khanyi Mbau Dubai story; here I go adding my two cents. That matter had nothing, I mean absolutely nothing to do with us but not only were we torn up trying to defend Khanyi Mbau's actions and some of us fighting for  Kudzai Mushonga. One may have thought; that with the expert commentary provided people had surveillance footage or V11s of the situation. I admit I too had a theory of what happened, and when they reunited I felt offended but was it their problem or did I invest myself into their business.  I'm saying is, with every situation I meet on social media, I want to refrain from commenting before I have all the facts. If possible, let me not co
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Peace

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"Peace is a daily, a weekly, a monthly process, gradually changing opinions, slowly eroding old barriers, quietly building new structures." —John F. Kennedy. I wrote the ending of this post before I wrote the beginning. It's because  I realised the true meaning of finding peace at the end of the article. I have been on a journey lately to be a better person, so I wanted to attain peace. I wanted peace of mind: to put it mildly, my mind is like Mfecane(series of Zulu and other Nguni wars and forced migrations of the second and third decades of the 19th century)  itself. So I decided to try something new. Last week I was upset and overwhelmed by emotions; I found myself picking a pen and paper and writing down my thoughts. After that, I found myself calm in those moments I thought I was at peace. So then I realised; to achieve this calmness, I need to let my thoughts out to paper. Naturally, I wanted to understand this phenomenon which led me to do some digging. As I read o
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Unfinished business

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 Today's post will be a little different; I hope you like it. I was on YOUTUBE and came across this video by  Dandapani; he speaks about three ways of developing willpower. Now I won't go into the whole video; he says, " There are three ways to develop willpower; the first thing is to finish what you begin." I want to dwell on this today as I am guilty of not finishing what I begin. It doesn't happen with projects only, also with conversations, and unfortunately with relationships as well. Unfortunately, I tend to leave conversations hanging.  I do so because I like to pick up from where I left off. I realise with conversations; I don't respond and concluding the topic. I wake up the next day and say, "you know so true" at the end, I'm stuck in this conversation where we are not saying anything that makes sense at all; it's just a back and forth of meaningless phrases.  I am afraid of conclusions; the idea of letting the conversation die to m
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Grateful

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 Some days back, I had someone say thank you to me for doing my job. I can't begin to tell you how good that felt; be appreciated for the work I had done even though it is my duty. Needless, the words of gratitude stayed with me throughout the day; I found even my attitude to everyone I interacted with after changed. I was more patient and diligent in my work and tried to assist everyone to the best of my ability.  When we hear the words "thank you," we feel validated and seen whatever you did isn't just another completed task. Instead, it's a service that was, appreciated. When asked about how they feel when they thank someone, an unknown person said," First of all, it means that I have noticed, felt and been nourished by something or someone. Then, when I give it back to the universe, my soul does cartwheels with happiness. It's the best feeling ever. It's like getting a compliment; all you need do is say "thank you"."  So lately, I h
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Self-reproach

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  I have never been a fan of sports; any form of exercise I have done has been purely out of necessity. A few days back, I read a blog on sports and lifestyle. The author made running seem as if it was something life-changing. Naturally, I thought I would try it out;  I woke up today and decided to run.  The first minute I was crushing it, and dare I say it was fun; unfortunately, I became too confident and stopped looking at the ground. Before I knew it, I had lost my footing and was on my way down to greet the earth with my face. I didn't spend time lying down assessing my situation; I stood up and dusted myself and debated should I continue or should I give up. I decided to keep going after that; I started running with my eyes wide open, carefully assessing the terrain I was running on. As I reflected on what had occurred, I noted that I saw the error in my ways. I saw my mistake; I didn't blame the stone; I made it a point to correct my mistake. That is the attitude we shou
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AUDERE EST FACERE (TO DO IS TO DARE)

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Latin is a beautiful language; granted, I can't pronounce it. It has these phrases that speak to me at a deeper level. Audere est Facere( to do is to dare) I think thats my favourite of the 10 I googled. This phrase speaks of how every decision you make in your life is a risk and, there is no one definite outcome.  You may go to school and still be unable to get a job afterwards. You start a business uncertain of the profits it will generate. But still, we see many people take a chance; it goes well at times; other times not so much. So you never know what God has in store for you; personally, no one I know has a magic mirror that shows the path to their future. Instead, all of us take actions hoping that we will succeed. We all leap in faith every morning as we wake up.  Nothing is certain in this world; don't sit on your hands. Instead, take that chance the Latin say Ex Nihilo Nihil Fit (from nothing comes nothing). The bible says in Proverbs 10: 4 - Lazy hands make a man poo
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