Statement of the week

  I feel like this blog has turned into a self-love blog because truthfully I struggle with loving myself so much. I think it's honestly the hardest thing I have ever had to do because it's always easy to see my faults. I don t know if it's just my mind, I feel society has conditioned us to see ourselves as imperfect more and more while telling us to love ourselves. It is two contrasting messages that you find in media if you have mastered self-love you are seen as a proud person if you don't love yourself well apparently there's something seriously wrong with you. SELF LOVE IS SOMEHOW CONDITIONAL TO THE FACT THAT NO ONE ELSE IS UNCOMFORTABLE WITH YOUR EXPRESSION OF IT. So as I have previously said  I have been struggling with seeing my worth it honestly doesn't matter how many times I recite the statement I am worth it to myself in the mirror I still don't see it. My worth has to this point depended on other people and how they treat me. It has been defined...

 I observed that lately, I have been responding to how I am, with the response I am bored honestly I have been bored. Someone commented on my response; hence I began racking my brains trying to come up with a way to alleviate the boredom, I can give a better answer next time.  Ideas came up with were, unfortunately, things I couldn't do seeing as I was in lockdown and then it hit me as I was staring at the mangoes tree. I noted that I have never climbed a tree before; that was something I could try doing. I looked around my surroundings and began forming ideas of possible tasks I could take on to alleviate my boredom. This discovery brought me to a realization that although we are in lockdown; although things seem to be closed, although you may at the moment be unemployed.  If you look around the environment you are in; you will realize there is much you can do. In those spaces where you feel as if nothing is open, be willing to discover opportunities do not be afraid to ...

  Hello dear readers I know I took a little un- announced break but I real needed it. If you are in Zimbabwe you know we just went into another lockdown and let me tell you the fear that grips me every time I hear the COVID statics I cannot even describe it.   I don’t know if it’s just me but I kind of had a little hope of a turn around this New Year and somehow the lockdown announcement just squashed all of it. I honestly felt like this was a point of no return I saw no good that could come from this situation and as I am writing this now I see a little light not much a little. So let’s talk about the little light I’m seeing its simple people have been saying these interesting statements to me. The first person said this is a time to regroup I know it sounds like a stretch but hear me out. Yes today you may be gripped with panic ,confusion ,you may be uneasy about what the future will bring but let us always remember there are some things that will never change. Those thing...

I know some of us have already made a list of our new years' resolutions and we are all but waiting January 2021 to get to work. I haven't done that yet;  in fact, I was looking at the list of resolutions I made for 2020 and midway through the list I laughed at myself, I realised I didn't do most of the stuff I said I would do. For example, I had said I wanted to exercise and surprise, surprise  I only managed to do that the first week of January. After some research, I found I wasn't the only one who had this issue.  Someone said the truth of the matter is that we want to achieve the goals we have set on the paper, but we do not have grit which is the power of passion and perseverance according to Angela Lee Duckworth. Meaning you can't just want to achieve your goals for the new year, you can't just want to change your behaviour. You have to be willing to put in the work; you have to be patient with yourself because change will take time. Don't let failure...

 Someone posted a message of how 2020 was their year, I literary paused for a moment and thought were we in the same year in all honest how could you say it was your year it was such a trying year. After a few moments, I thought back to that post and noticed that I was saying 2020 was not a good year based on the coronavirus.  I put a limitation on how good the year would be for me the moment the coronavirus was declared a worldwide pandemic.  My perception of life shifted into a survival mode in March when we went into lockdown, I stopped seeing opportunities to further my growth in different aspects of my life and started praying I at least maintain the level I'm on. I limited my capabilities to the environmental factors hence my mind, concluded that nothing good would come from 2020. I forgot that even dry desert you can still see an oasis and blossoming marigolds. I know this may seem a bit redundant as I started a blog in 2020; I want you to understand my mentality w...

I don't know if it's just my insecurities speaking but ever felt like you are not living right. Okay, hold on a second before saying I've lost it what I mean is have you ever felt like your life is not that great because of the way you see someone else's life moving. Like I was on INSTAGRAM as I always am and you know; I see people on vacations taking these pictures  I thought, what I am not doing right. Like, am I doing this life thing wrong how come everyone is seemingly living these lifestyles that seem unattainably lavish. After I turned off the app and did something else, I recalled what I think we all know; we only see what people allow us to see.  The glamourized moments I was looking at on INSTAGRAM posts were in some cases, not daily things they were the happy occasions. I didn't see the full picture. I couldn't view the hustling I just got a little glimpse.  I convinced myself I wasn't living right. I forgot that people's lives are different no...

  Crazy story! I almost got scammed on INSTAGRAM was one of those random spam messages you get in your DM's.  So I get one from an "online store" since I have heard stories I immediately looked for YOUTUBE reviews then a few minutes later I knew it was a scam. So this got me thinking about how it was that people saw it right to benefit from the downfall of others. How the scammers felt as they advertised and engaged people only to rob them. I asked myself whether it was a moral deprivation that had taken over the current generation. So I thought I would do some oral research, I approached my mom the conversation began. I asked her first about the nature of people in the olden days she told me of her grandfather a man who would call out to the streets and invite anyone passing by to share in the food he had. She told me of how when people would travel close to the farmland; inhabitants would share the harvest regardless of whether or not the other person had a plot of thei...